How to Stop Overthinking?

Most of us are dwelling back and forth in the memories of past and worries of future. With rising stress, we start feeling lonely, frustrated and depressed. At that time, we just want to pack your bags and want to run away from that place. Is it with me or Are you facing some problems? Let’s start finding a solution to it because obviously we can’t pack our bags and go somewhere, ultimately our this job is earning bread and house rent for us, we are bound to it to fulfil our goals.

Stop Blaming And Forgive Yourself

Let’s us move step by step to overcome this challenge of life. Many of us are locking ourselves in the chains of regret and guilt because of the choices we have made in the past. We are continuously blaming ourselves.  You are human and humans are bound to make mistakes. Maybe your decisions are worse than others but this is your life you cannot spoil it based on some decisions.

“Imagine you are walking on the subway with a cup of coffee but suddenly you hit a pole because of the crowd and end up spilling half of your coffee. So, now will you keep the regret of half spill coffee throughout the life or will enjoy the other half of life, This is the same as Life, Do you want to end another half of your life regretting about the mistakes you made in the first half of your life”.

It’s the time to forgive yourself and work on a better version of you.

Overcome fear Of The Outcome

I always had this issue of overthinking and analysing about the future, I keep on analysing all the permutation and combinations of winning in life. Sometimes, the fear of losing and not fulfilling my goals made me upset or make me panic while reaching my goal. In fact, The whole world has seen ” The God of Cricket – Sachin Tendulkar” at his nervous 90’s, so who are we, everyone can have that fear but do you realise that our this fear often stops us from reaching our goal. So, don’t you think, you should stop putting yourself in this hot water?

Choose Between Belief and Reality 

As a kid, I was very scared of ghosts, some of us are still scared of them. Do you remember the last time when you saw a horror movie and you were a little terrified while sleeping at night and you felt that there can be a ghost in your room? Although, you are aware that there are no ghosts in real but still it haunts us. This is what belief is, some of us overthink about our beliefs which may or may not exist. We leave the door of reality and choose to live in a room of belief.

Keep Yourself Busy 

It’s a very old saying -” The empty mind is the devil’s workshop”. Free mind welcomes a number of thoughts. Keep yourself busy with work, goals, friends or whatever you like. There is a number of options available these days to keep yourself busy which may also help you to enhance your skills, you can join some courses you like or watch some web series.

Share Your Heart Out

Share your thoughts, problems, guilts and problems with someone you trust, sometimes it makes us feel relief. Generally, I pen down my thoughts to release myself from the burden of thoughts.

Writer’s Tip – If half spill cup of coffee affects you so much then buy a new cup of coffee for yourself. Create a world which keeps you happy, you have all the rights to change the things which don’t keep you happy. A world with your choice of office, job, apartment, song, party, person, friend or city which makes you feel happy.

REGRETS – A teacher who lets you learn and grow…!!

“I keep dwelling back and forth on the chances I took, the bus I boarded and the paths I didn’t get a chance to take.” – Nisha Lamichaney 


In the world of 7.6 billion people there is no human being who can say that they don’t have any regrets. Regret is the outcome of some undesirable conditions/situation happened or happening because of our actions in the past and those actions are called mistakes. In short, when expectations don’t meet reality, we witness the emotion what we all know as disappointment and which cumulates into regret.

However, though it’s not only the mistake which makes us regret things, it’s sometimes the choices in life which have to take, knowingly and unknowingly which in long run doesn’t satisfy our minds, doesn’t make us feel happy from inside that trigger this emotion time and again. We ponder at the thought “if and why”, get stuck on the moment and keep deliberating back and forth by feeling trapped inside an empty vessel.

From a kid on the bed to an aged person on deathbed, everyone is having regrets. We regret only when we or something in which we were involved gets fail. Having regrets can cause health issues like depression, anxiety, lack of interest, sadness etc.

We all know the fact that human is made of mistakes and as the famous quote by ‘Alexander Pope’ says, “To err is human”. The number of regrets is directly proportional to the age of the person and that makes us more experienced. This is why, as we grow, so are our experiences.

There could be any reason for your regret like wrong choices, wrong career, failed relationships or failure in any task for which we were preparing for some time. Regret would be more if there is any loss involved which can’t be reversed or regained.

So are you regretting on something? Are you dwelling back and forth on your past? If yes, then you got to increase your rational thought process.

  1. Acceptance:

First of all, you need to understand that you can’t go into the past and fix your issues. Whatever has happened has already happened. Not everything you want is meant to happen and you can’t control everything.  Keep telling yourself that the best is yet to come and this was just a lesson which you can implement for a better future.

  1. Don’t blame:

Don’t blame yourself for the things which happened against your choice. At the same time doesn’t blame other people as well. It’s you who let them the way they acted. Take accountability of yourself because nobody can control you other than yourself.

Don’t panic, YOU DID WHAT YOU FELT RIGHT. You were happy, weren’t you? Now the situation is not in your hand doesn’t mean you were wrong. It just means that it has run out of its course in your life and that chapter is closed.  Remind yourself that at some point of time it’s you who were doing or took those decisions and which obviously made you happy.

We learn from our mistakes and implement those lessons in our future. Failure makes us the better version of ourselves.

  1. Analyze, learn and apply:

By analyzing I didn’t mean that you need to think of what could have done and what shouldn’t have done so that it didn’t come out this way. Know the reason of regret and apply whatever you learned in the past. Just analyze that what you did wrong and make sure not to repeat the same mistake again in future.

Keep in mind, if you dwell on what you got as an outcome then you won’t get back on track. But if you look for the lessons learned from the past mistakes then you feel positive.

  1. Move ahead:

In the end, all you need to do is just let it be whatever happened. And move ahead by setting goals even if they are the same in which you made mistake or you failed. You would realize that you can do better this time as you are experienced and aware of the mistakes.

Forgive yourself, write a letter to yourself and turn your regret into gratitude by being positive towards future rather than recalling past. Practice self-affirmation that will help you gain self-confidence. Make the routine for exercise as it cheers up your mood. Hit the gym, do meditation or just simply go out for a walk.

After sometime when things fall into your favour and then someday you will smile on your past mistakes and feel that…. it always happens for a reason.


Through a process of continuous healing & transformation, we all become more aware of our own self. Regrets open doors to new opportunities in life. Had we not faced regret earlier, we would not have suffered, had we not suffered, we would not be wise enough to make the best of every situation which is under our control…so hold regret but not keep for long….you never know when life gives you an opportunity to redeem it.

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– Vivek Uniyal

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